Difference between love and lust

I enjoy looking at the definition of these 2 terms. Love is “A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness”. Whereas Lust is defined as “Intense or unrestrained sexual craving”. In simple words, lust is equivalent to “I want to sleep with you” and love is “intense liking for you”

However we tend to lump these 2 terms together because it is the common myth that the men’s aim of treating a woman so nicely is to get under her skirt. TRUE? Or FALSE? The answer is true! Men’s ultimate goal is to score point and eventually accumulate enough points to redeem under a woman’s skirt. Well, offended? Feel cheated? Ultimately it is human nature to procreate and it is our hormones are our body that is reacting this way that causes our brain to induce actions in order for the man to “score”!

Nonetheless, it is important for the woman to interpret what signals the male is sending in order to protect herself. In her subconscious mind, she will be thinking “Should I withdraw my fixed deposit?” or “Should I keep my fixed deposit for a long date?” Afterall, this is what one has to go through eventually during that “critical moment”.

Precisely why it is imperative for us to distinct between love and lust. The difference is merely separated by a piece of thin ice called effort! Despite the fact that all men would do anything to make a woman “withdraw her fixed deposit” the effort put in is significantly different.

For instance, all men want a piece of a hot babe. Apparently it’s rather rude to cite any celebrity so let’s give her a fake name. Let’s name her POMELO ANDERSEN. Imagine John is crazy about POMELO. He fantasizes about the stunts and tricks to do in bed with POMELO and he delighted the moment he thinks of it. However, suppose that John has an opportunity to get to know POMELO and he is supposed to do tons of things to impress her. For instance, work for one month (depending on the job and qualification), so that he can afford a brand new suit, buy her a good meal, shower her with flowers and surprise her with a diamond ring. Chances are that he will not do it! Because the opportunity cost of that split second (Okay maybe slight longer for some) of adrenaline rush is far too costly to bear.

Despite the fact that all men wants to “withdraw a woman’s fixed deposit”. Most of the time, it is merely a fantasy and not a motive to do make sacrifices for that lucky lady.